She should have received my note by now.
I am thinking about her constantly.
Did she read it in shock? Did she stick it in a drawer? Is she scared? Is she thinking of responding? Does she have anyone to talk to about it? Is she hurting? Does she believe its real or is she wondering if it is a scam? Will she be angry I found her?
Will it be days, weeks, months, or years before I hear something.
If she does respond, how will we prove our identities to each other?
Did she read it in shock? Did she stick it in a drawer? Is she scared? Is she thinking of responding? Does she have anyone to talk to about it? Is she hurting? Does she believe its real or is she wondering if it is a scam? Will she be angry I found her?
Will it be days, weeks, months, or years before I hear something.
If she does respond, how will we prove our identities to each other?
posted by marlene at 6:40 PM
4 Comments:
Agreed with Kim. Did you send return receipt or do tracking on it?
Proving identity? It may be as simple as seeing a picture of her. With my daughter and I there was no doubt. It was freaky.
If you needed to, you could always do a DNA swab.
I meant to send the little green return receipt thing, but hubby mailed it for me and I forgot to tell him. He just put it in a post box, didn't take it to a counter.
On the proving identity thing, I didn't mean proving relationship, I just meant if she emails me that she knows I really am the adoptive mom and that whoever emails me really is L.
I know L. is the mom, I just meant knowing for sure it was L, not someone else responding.
Like how to ask eachother questions to make sure we know who we are talking to without it sounding harsh, offensive, or interogeratory.
That all just might happen naturally depending on how she responds.
If I don't hear anything in six months, maybe I will try an intermediary in case she didn't get this letter, and have them put in the previous attempt and that if she doesn't want contact we will respect it, but that she can always find us by...
I just really wanted it to be more private this time in case the wrong person got it.
Thanks for "waiting" with me ladies.
And Suz, H and I are really able to support each other - our letters went the same day. Thanks for connecting us!
glad to hear you and h are getting it on. it hought you would. she is amazing. she, dawn, you inpsire me that there are amoms out there who get it.
I really am enjoying reading about this journey. I wish my amom understood. The fact that you want BJ to belong shoes that you DO get it. I give you props!!
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